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This weekend we take our youngest child to a university 2 hours away.

This child was my answered prayer, my joy after the sorrow of two miscarriages, my delightfully funny burst of sunshine in difficult times. :wub:

As happy as I am that she has this opportunity, my heart grieves for the loss of her everyday company. These last few years have been a blessing. With one daughter married with children, our son living nearby but in his own home, we have grown closer. She seems to appreciate more than she criticizes.

 

It's more difficult because she's my youngest, and she'll be further away than the other two. They were minutes away, not hours. And yes, I know it could be worse; she's not halfway across the country.

 

I seem to get all "weepy" at random times. It's with me constantly. :(

Friday we are trying to wrap up the preps and be ready to take her on Saturday, so I won't be here much these next few days.

 

:pray::sSig_help2::sigh:

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awww - she will survive and grow and you will discover the beautiful young lady that you have created. :bighug2: from a mother who has seen 4 daughters leave home, the last one is 11 hours drive from home and intends to move to the other end of the country next year to a city I don't think I could ever visit as it is just too hot for me. Love them lots pray lots and enjoy some time with just 2 of you at home :)

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I understand! I felt the same way when our oldest daughter married and moved away. We went back to northern Maine to work that summer (she got married in April, we left a couple of weeks later). She and DSIL lived in TN. We didn't have cell phones then. I cried a lot.

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I remember when we took DD to college last year. I felt a sense of relief along with the pain of leaving her because I knew she was making a good choice for HER. Not enough kids she went to school with have made the commitment to college and are now either pregnant and unmarried or working at part time jobs and still living at home.

 

You will be okay. You will talk or text regularly I am sure. I text with my DD daily even if it is only about little things. Keeps us connected and we both know I would be there in a heartbeat if she needs me. As will you. Hang in there. It gets easier.

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I was just thinking that, Dogmom. Was NOT the case when DD1 went to different island for university. Then when DD2 joined her, we left for CO! :o Does anyone but us who still live in 'the boonies' [aka: outside cell phone range] even REMEMBER the term "long-distance phone call" ?? Still affects my ability of contact DDs. :sigh:

 

But truly Cat, I'll pray for your empty nest feelings. The first one and the last one really change things.

 

MtRider :pray:

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((((Cat))) My son left for college (first one to leave the nest) last fall and it has been bittersweet. I still miss him terribly but I know he is spreading his wings and learning to fly. He has been home only twice for Thanksgiving and Christmas and we kidnapped him for our summer vacation for a few days in the middle of summer term (he chose to do the extra term to shorten his college time to 4 yrs with a computer science minor intstead of taking a 5th yr). I am sure it will be tough to drop her off but phones help!

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:grouphug: I'm there with you! My oldest joined the Catholic church and decided to become a nun (all in the last 2 years). We went from having her at home full time to...just completely gone. She's in Wisconsin staying near and working at the convent where she hopes to be accepted. I had just started adjusting well, and she said she's coming home (next week) for a very short visit. I'm hoping this balance I've reached will hold after she leaves again. It's tough.

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