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I think my sister has just put the final nail in any relationship we could ever have. I am so hurt by what she has done. She filed an affidavit saying she was the only child my Mother had in order to claim some insurance money that was supposed to be split 3 ways. It really isn't the money but the fact that she could sink so low as to steal from me and our brother. She called at Christmas and I thought she was trying to make a fresh start. I was happy thinking we might become close again. Now I know I can never trust her . I'm not really surprised but sooo dissapointed in her and a bit in myself for being gullible.

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Do you know the insurance agency? Contact them and let them know that your sister is not an only child and that you would like to send them a copy of your birth certificate. Ask your brother to do the same. And ask them when they will be sending you your portion of the insurance money.

 

If the insurance company wants to press charges, let them but don't have any more contact with your sister. You're right, it isn't about the money, it's about your sister's complete and total lack of respect for you, your brother, and your Mother.

 

Some would say that you should just let the money and your sister go. I get that, I've done that. But, just know that if she gets away with it with you, she's going to attempt it with others. Maybe it's time someone called her on it? It doesn't have to be you but maybe it should be you?

 

(Believe me, I understand. My own family relationship is currently torn apart because of my sister. There are no more family gatherings for any of us. My brother is actually thinking about filing a lawsuit against her. And yes, it's kind of about money ($10,000) but it's more about her refusing to acknowledge that she owes him anything and her constant conniving to get the rest of our extended family against him and his wife. It's horrible, horrible, horrible the way she treats him and the things she has said about him. I'm so glad I live 400 miles away. :( And yes, she owes me several thousand as well.)

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I understand completely. My sister has been asking an aunt about a 200-year-old Bible Sis has, what it's value might be, etc. And it was NOT in the belongings we chose from. She stole it. And I'm sure there's more she just took.

 

I agree with Andrea - this is the insurance company's problem to deal with. They should have had the information about children already, I would think, and should have questioned your sister's claim.

 

Doing the right thing by making them and her correct this is a point of law, now. You now know what she is, without a doubt. A lawsuit may protect others down the road, because it will be public record, if she is sued.

 

:hug3: Far better to know what you're dealing with, than keep hoping for changes that will not come. :hug3:

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The money came from the insurance company but it went to the state (Florida) unclaimed fund. I talked to them today(Florida) and they say it is my problem even though she signed their affadavit saying she was the only child. The paper they have says that she signed under threat of perjury that it was true.They told me I can pursue it as a civil matter but I would probably have to hire a lawyer. I am also out of state.so that would be an added problem. Although I am flat broke and in debt it really isn't the money as much as the wrong that was done.

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Go to the Dollar Store. Buy a Sympathy card, preferably one for "loss of a sister." Write a little note that goes something like, "My condolences on the loss of your family. According to the affidavit you signed for the State of Florida, you have no siblings. Have a nice life. - Momo" Before you seal the envelope, visualize putting all the grievances, hurts, slights you've experienced from this woman inside the envelope. Seal it well, put it in the mail, and say your final GOODBYE. Put it as far behind you as you can. If it creeps into the edge of your consciousness, say a prayer, pull weeds, go for a walk, do anything constructive to put it out of your mind. You've said your farewells, now do your best to keep them in the past. I know, easier said than done. Sigh . . . . :bighug2:

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Andrea..I love how you think!

 

I have a hard time ever saying a "final goodbye" to anyone. I always hope for improvement or a miracle but I should know by now that it never happens in real life. (At least to me)

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