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:sigh:

 

I was working in the yard, pulling weeds, and the dog decided to run away. DH is so very upset, he had to leave to go to MIL's this month, instead of me. Heck of a way to send him off.

 

I've looked and looked, called and called... stupid dog. He gets to come with me out into the front yard, but usually he goes right back into the yard.

 

Made for a bad start for the day.

 

I hope he comes home.

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:shakinghead:

 

One of the neighbor kids saw him, all the way across town at the dog park, and brought him home. He was supposed to stay and guard me while I did yard work. Well, that is what he usually does. Stupid dog. :tapfoot:

 

At least I was able to call DH on the road and tell him, so he would quit worrying.

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Wacky Wednesday ... it must be in the air. Today I officially "resigned" from several members of my family. Blowing up bridges? What bridges! MrWE2 and I are both feeling sooooo relieved. Free NOT to be providing care for people who call you bad names and undermine what you try to do to help them. The only prayer I'd enjoy would be the prayers my son is going to need to find himself a new place to abuse and different people to use. Might also remember mother...she's on her own now too unless some ofher members of this family step up. I'm out of the financial management, hair cutting, laundry, vacuuming, toilet cleaning and anything else that involves that. MrWE2 and I will be going to see our attorney shortly, going to change our trust and will be leaving "whatever we don't spend" to our local Moose Club's "Moose Haven" which is a retirement community in Florida that Moose Lodge's support. Since the day I gave my life to the Lord (1973) I've been the stepping stone for people who have taken my love and compassion and stomped on it. Ain't happin' no more! Giving whatever is left of our estate to Moose Haven? Hmmm...we may move there if we ever needed a place to settle :-)

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((((((The WE2's))))))

 

Sorry to hear you are going through something like that. It is a tough path to have to walk, to say 'no more' to those we love and care about. We've had similar situations in our lives. In the long term, it was for the best. We feel better and are not constantly stretched to our limits, physically, emotionally and financially. Funny thing, they got their act together after we cut them off. Who knows, maybe they found someone else to enable them. Why people take advantage of others is beyond me. I would not do it and can not, nor do I want to, understand. DH calls them "needy people".

 

Keeping you wrapped in :pray: God knows.

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(((((((WE2)))))))

 

I've had to do the same thing in my family in the past too. It was hard at first but it was the best thing for me. I don't like the feeling of being used and I don't do the enabling thing very well either. My family issue was with gossip. I wouldn't have minded it so much if it would have been true.They just attached themselves to other family members. I suppose it will run it's course with them too and they will move on to someone else leaving a path of destruction and lies in their wake. Pretty sad when it's your own family though.

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I'm really feeling quite "liberated" (hope that doesn't sound bad) now that we're able to go and do whatever we want and whenever we want without having to rush back every week to do her chores. My siblings are having a fit...wanted to "have a meeting" and I told them "Thanks for the invite, but I won't be there". Son and Mother joined forces against us, her loaning him money to fix a stupid junk car he got hooked (doesn't even run!) and when I saw on her online banking (which I have been managing) that he had used her debit card to buy car parts I confronted them. MrWE2 and I both were given some pretty scathing accusations...ie: selfish bit.., and some others...and when I called the brother who is supposed to be the executor if she passes, I was told I was "shitty" and when asked if I was prepared to pay 1/4 of her care and I said no, he said "that's a bunch of bulls...., as far as I'm concered you're not part of this family, and I have nothing more to say to you" and hung up. Then he calls and wants all four of us to "meet at a restaurant this Sunday to discuss things and clear the air". I told him thanks, but I wouldn't be there. His response..."I'm so disappointed in you. But guess that's your choice"...right on bro! Then sis calls and tries to get me to come. "Thanks, but no thanks. I've tried to talk to all 4 of your for 2 years but nobody's listened"...then it's "this is getting so blown out of proportion" and "we are listening, we are listening". Yeah? Only since the WE2's bowed out! Once I told them mother and son had been to the bank and attorney to remove my name from everything, it sure got their attention! Yippee for the WE2's! No more "getting sick and going to the hospital" everytime we go camping. We've raised the rent to an amount that we feel sure son will have to move. Bottom line? They don't have any idea of what a selfish bit.. this lady can be :-( I think many of you remember awhile ago when son had his "affair" with the online gal that pretened pregnancy etc. He's still not figured out just who's apartment he's living in. I've got a few more years to enjoy my life and it's not going to be spent taking care of beligerant, hateful, spiteful, ungrateful and gossips who try to undermine everything we tried to do to help. So friend...don't worry. I'm feeling quite elated and quite comfortable in my decision to bow out. I walk close enough to the Lord that if i was in error, I'm sure He'd haul me up short. But...prayers are always welcome! :cele::cheer:

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Sure is nice of your siblings to invite you out to supper/lunch after all this time. Must be afraid they are going to have to pick up the slack and actually do something. You are right...at this late stage in the game you do deserve to have a life and enjoy what time you have left. It isn't like you didn't try to please them. You are a good person who tried her best, but you just can't please some people no matter how far you bend over. Doing good deeds is wonderful when it's appreciated and not expected. Hang in there girlfriend. :hug3:

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Mother called and "informed us" that we needed to pick up the new key to the front door...she and son changed the locks. When I picked it up I said "This is a lot more convenient than having to call the sheriff while we break in"...got a funny look on that one! LOL Funny how they seem to forget just who owns that house! Got a cell call this morning...didn't even answer it. Now she and son are "turning this house upside down because we can't find my Trust document binder"...what business is it of his? Aint gonna try to think about where it might be...I don't take care of her biz no mo! LOL Perhaps the call was to celebrate finding it? :24:

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And... it's wednesday again.
Crazy days indeed.

Yesterday the wife of a dead friend in NM passed away. She'd been ill with cancer and deteriorated very fast.

To be thankful for is that we spoke at length on the phone last saturday. She told me she was sending me emails for when she couldn't write anymore.

We didn't have an inkling that that day would come so soon.

One special lady has gone.

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So...they change the locks and then gave you the new key????

 

Yes, I think mother did have enough sense to know she'd better do that. "Somebody" also changed the passwords to her checking account. I hope it's the brother that will be the sucessor trustee when she passes...for her own financial good. BUT...it's feeling mighty good to not even be responsible for "looking" :-)

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Maybe not really "wackey" but today was the day for us to sand down Abby-girl's toe nails. I hold her head with my leg under her belly and feed her treats, while MrWE2 uses the Dremel to sand them down. None of us enjoy it, but it's safer (in our opinion) than trying to clip them. We've got a really nice pair of nippers, but the last time MrWE2 used them they got too close and we had innocent blood on our hands...so....no more. We've sanded them for about a year and although it's time consuming it's our preference.

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Also...got my scissors out and gave myself a hair trim. That's one thing about having it shoulder length...I can cut it myself and do "some" layering and don't have to do it so often. For me...wearing it short always meant a monthly trip to the hairdresser and if I got a bad cut, it looked horrible :-(

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