It came as no surprise; Grandma was on an obvious decline. She died peacefully, surrounded and cared for by family. She was a good woman and I have no doubt of where she is now.
Aside from being sad to see her go, I'm also a bit sad because the family has lost its locus point- everyone converged on Grandma's at the holidays. Now we have to figure the next rendezvous point (can't be my place; I live Far Away).
I doubt people really think about this factor when the family matriarch/patriarch is on their way out. I would suggest discussing it so the planning of the next family holiday doesn't seem as strange.
It has also thrown in my face how I haven't built any strong connections in recent years after moving Away. I need to work on that.
My grandmother passed away
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, May 05 2012 01:27 PM
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Posted 05 May 2012 - 02:13 PM
So sorry to hear about your grandmothers passing.... 
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Posted 05 May 2012 - 02:23 PM
Even when expected, it is hard to lose someone close. You know you'll see her again and that makes it so much better.
"Have mercy on me, my God, have mercy on me, for in you I take refuge. I will take refuge in the shadow of your wings until the disaster has passed." Ps 57:1
"Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise,making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. " Eph 5:15,16
"Do not be afraid because of the words that you have heard" 2 Kings 19:6
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"Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise,making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. " Eph 5:15,16
"Do not be afraid because of the words that you have heard" 2 Kings 19:6
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Posted 05 May 2012 - 03:51 PM
I'm so sorry about your grandma! I'll pray for you and your family.
John 14:27 ...Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone.
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Job 13:15 Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him...
Where are we going and why are we in a handbasket?!
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A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone.
Henry David Thoreau
Job 13:15 Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him...
Where are we going and why are we in a handbasket?!
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Posted 05 May 2012 - 04:06 PM
I am so sorry for your loss...It is always hard to lose a beloved family meber. You raise a good point about the holidays. I know that it is an issue in my family. My guess is that my house would be the obvious choice, but you never know what people are thinking until you talk it over with them.
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Posted 05 May 2012 - 06:56 PM
I'm sorry for your loss!
It's true about the family drifting apart when the matriarch passes on. It happened in my family too. One of our cousins tried to carry on but it wasn't the same.
It's true about the family drifting apart when the matriarch passes on. It happened in my family too. One of our cousins tried to carry on but it wasn't the same.
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Posted 05 May 2012 - 07:25 PM
So sorry about your grandmother. I hope your family can find a way to keep holidays alive. My mom's family holidays fell apart when she went in the nursing home. No one had a house big enough or wanted the responsiblity. I lived too far away to take it over, so they quit having holidays 15 years before she died. 
I hope your family can find a way to keep holidays alive. My mom's family holidays fell apart when she went in the nursing home. No one had a house big enough or wanted the responsiblity. I lived too far away to take it over, so they quit having holidays 15 years before she died.
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Posted 06 May 2012 - 02:06 PM
I am sorry to hear about your grandmother passing.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding,
in all of your ways acknowledge HIM and HE will make your paths straight.
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in all of your ways acknowledge HIM and HE will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:5-6
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Posted 07 May 2012 - 02:35 PM
so sorry to hear about your grandmother. I still remember vividly the day my grandmother died and getting the call while at work. It is never easy to loose a beloved family member, I will keep you and your family in my prayers
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Posted 07 May 2012 - 03:04 PM
I'm sorry for your loss!
Psalm 27:13
I would have lost heart, unless I had believed
That I would see the goodness of the Lord
In the land of the living.
I would have lost heart, unless I had believed
That I would see the goodness of the Lord
In the land of the living.
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Posted 15 May 2012 - 10:16 AM
I hope it doesn't sound empty to say I'm sorry. I've been through the loss of grandparents 3 times over and it's never easy. At least part of the sting was removed by her peaceful departure surrounded by family. It always seems more poignant that we haven't build and solid roots when we lose someone. I find myself in a similar place now, without 'roots' so to speak. Hugs and comfort to you.
[quote name='HazelStone' timestamp='1336242434' post='378873']
It came as no surprise; Grandma was on an obvious decline. She died peacefully, surrounded and cared for by family. She was a good woman and I have no doubt of where she is now.
[quote name='HazelStone' timestamp='1336242434' post='378873']
It came as no surprise; Grandma was on an obvious decline. She died peacefully, surrounded and cared for by family. She was a good woman and I have no doubt of where she is now.
All it takes to make a difference is one person.
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