HapyGirl Posted February 22, 2003 Share Posted February 22, 2003 Missing that thumbs up icon LOL. The last couple of weeks I've been pretty quiet, mostly just working through the emotional turmoil I was feeling, and getting everything straight in my head. I wanted to let you know how very much your prayers and support have meant to me. Just knowing so many were lifting me up gave me strength when I felt I had none and made a huge difference for me! My DH has a councelling apt. for Wednesday with a man who my friend recommended. She is a psychologist and works with him and felt he would be someone my husband would feel comfortable with. My DH has also agreed to enter a 12 step program, which is amazing to me. There aren't any in our area, but he will be able to get help from an online group, so that is better than nothing. He and has been very willing to do everything I have asked him to do. I am fairly sure he has clinical depression, in addition to the problem with porn, but the councellor will be able to determine that more accurately. I have come to terms with the fact that in reality this really isn't a marriage problem, it is my DH's problems loving himself. He is trying to fill an emptiness inside that I cannot fix. He has to find some way on his own to heal the hurt from being emotionally neglected as a child. I can only love him and support his recovery. He has committed to taking those first steps and that is all I can ask. I still feel so much love and connection and I know he does too. Both of us have already grown so much together over the years, and there have been so many times he supported me while I worked through my own internal issues with learning to drive, and get over my social anxiety. He was patient and supportive and he deserves the same support and patience from me as long as he continues to genuinely try to recover from this addiction. I honestly feel he is willing to do the work. Anyhow I thought you would all like to know that there is a lot of progress in my house, and he has made an effort not only with this issue, but in other areas like helping more around the house, and I even got to go out last night to a concert with some friends without too much grumbling. Usually he would have really tried to guilt trip me into thinking it was too hard for him, but this time all he did was ask if I could get a babysitter to help. I knew he was worn out from all the stress we are under so I did, and he did great while I was gone. So that is immense progress Quote Link to comment
Guest Guest Posted February 23, 2003 Share Posted February 23, 2003 That's soooooo great, Becca Anne! I'm so glad things are working out for you! I'll continue to pray... (((((Becca Anne))))) Quote Link to comment
Guest Guest Posted February 23, 2003 Share Posted February 23, 2003 Becca Anne......I'm so happy for you! Kudo's to both of you for working to make your life together better, instead of just giving up on it. May your marriage, your love, and your family become even stronger through this experience. {{{Becca Anne}}} Quote Link to comment
Homesteader Posted February 23, 2003 Share Posted February 23, 2003 I'm so happy for you BeccaAnne. As long as your DH is willing to try there is still hope!! Quote Link to comment
Guest Guest Posted February 23, 2003 Share Posted February 23, 2003 Becca, I hope this works for you and your husband... Quote Link to comment
Guest Guest Posted February 23, 2003 Share Posted February 23, 2003 Controlling your own thoughts and impulses can be a very hard thing to do, because the only "policeman" is truly yourself. If your DH is taking steps to do that, then I pray he'll be successful. Bless you, Becca-Anne, for your love and understanding. Your marriage will be stronger for this time - I'm glad you're hanging in there! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Becca-Anne & DH & family}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Quote Link to comment
Guest Guest Posted February 23, 2003 Share Posted February 23, 2003 ((((((((((((((Becca)))))))))))))) Quote Link to comment
logcabinmama Posted February 24, 2003 Share Posted February 24, 2003 Thank you for the up-date, Becca. Sounds like things are looking up. I am so glad for you. (((((((((Becca, DH and family)))))))))))) Quote Link to comment
Dee Posted February 25, 2003 Share Posted February 25, 2003 HUGS TO YOU! Remember take One second of every minute of every hour of every day. Quote Link to comment
ozzzyyy Posted February 25, 2003 Share Posted February 25, 2003 (((((((BeccaAnne))))) Its going to be alright! One day at a time.... Your DH is blessed to have you! Thanks for the update Quote Link to comment
Goose Liver Posted March 2, 2003 Share Posted March 2, 2003 BeccaAnne(ba) sooo glad things are working out well for you right now..... Quote Link to comment
Guest Guest Posted March 2, 2003 Share Posted March 2, 2003 Hope all works out great for the long run...tell Mr. Becca we're pulling for him too! Your family deserve happiness! Remember to look at bottom of my sig! Quote Link to comment
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